Monday, February 11

Blake Fisher: 1st Voices Video

The miracle of rain doesn't begin all at once. It starts with one drop, then another, then another, until the clouds have gathered and the sound of thunder echoes off the mountainside.

Today, the miracles are beginning to happen. The first video from Voices of Hope was made public. Voices of Hope is a project designed to share the stories of a thousand men and women who live with same-gender attraction and who find peace and joy in the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Here's a video introduction to the project, done by Ty Mansfield:


I've known Blake for over two years now. He posted a comment here on (Gay) Mormon Guy that called me to the carpet. It was intense, but I could tell that, even though we had never met, he cared. And I appreciated that. The conversation that followed over the next few years in multiple forms helped me get to know him as a person - to see his fears and flaws and hopes and dreams. We've both been perfectionists... and we've both learned that God doesn't ask us to be perfect to be worthy of His love.

Here's a link to highlights from Blake's video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TIk3JJusnSE

If you know him, tell him that you love him. Verbally, physically, in his email account and in your prayers. Ask him questions. Be willing to start the conversation and listen to what he's learned from life.

The full 50-minute interview is here:




Other resources:

The Voices podcast - a behind-the-scenes look at the Voices of Hope project, filming, and some of the miracles that have happened thus far.

http://northstarlds.org/podcasts/


Voices of Hope website

http://northstarlds.org/voices-of-hope/

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow! Such strength...I hope I can be able to show my son love through his struggles! Thanks for sharing

Anonymous said...

Has been a while since I googled up your blog. Maybe since you revealed your identity you have opened up to other ways of living your life besides checking boxes off your list in order to get in the Celestial Kingdom, including getting married to a woman and trying to pretend you are the perfect Mormon man...I hope you have opened up your views to the possibility of dating/marrying a guy. And I'm saying this as another Mormon.

Mormon Guy said...

The Celestial Kingdom as a checklist? And you're wondering if sharing my blog has made me "more open" to breaking the law of chastity?

That is not my brand of Mormonism.

No, I am not open to having sexual relationships with men. That will not change.

ThoughtsFeelingsInstincts said...

Blake says he feels hopeful at the end of the video. What do you think he feels hopeful of or for?

Anonymous said...

I said nothing of breaking the law of chastity. But dating/marrying a man (dating does not mean you have sex)...I had hoped that choice had opened up for you. It has to be said... The very worst thing you could ever do (and to me God would judge you more harshly for this than if you broke the law of chastity/married a guy) is to hurt a girl who would marry you simply by not desiring her. This is an extremely serious issue in marriage, and I say that as a married Mormon lady.

Mormon Guy said...

Anonymous: I'm not sure what exactly you're saying. Are you trying to say that I would marry someone without being deeply attracted to her? Or marry someone without being totally in love with her?

If that is the case, I'm not sure where that information came from. I have never intended to marry a girl I am not deeply attracted to in every way, including physical and sexual, or one that I am not completely in love with.

The perpetuation of the two choices you gave - either lie to a girl just to get married (I have never met someone who has done that, and I have met hundreds of happily married gay Mormon men), or dating/marrying a man (which are against the law of chastity if there is anything beyond being a good/best friend. And if you're best friends and not lovers, why on earth would you call it dating??? Or marriage???) - is not a good thing.

There are many, many Mormon men and women who are exclusively homosexual, but who, through the grace of God, fell in love with their spouse of the opposite sex. They are still exclusively homosexual, with one exception - their spouse. They are not attracted to any other women. They love their wives... often more than a heterosexual guy would, and put more effort into making the relationship work than most others, just because the repercussions of failure would be catastrophic.

And many of the ones I've known are soulmates. I know that most people may not have them... and I don't have enough experience to speak generally, but in looking at the marriages I've seen, I honestly believe that it happens far more often in those of us with SSA... when we find a spouse of the opposite gender, it's the one and only.

Anonymous said...

This comment worries me. I may be looking too much into what Anon is saying, but I fear these videos may not be used for the correct purpose.

Anon, you should love your son unconditionally no matter which path he decides to take. Your love for him shouldn't be influenced by some stranger's life experience. Listen to your son's story before Blake's and love him through his "struggles."

(G)MG, I'd love for you to chime in on this. What are the purposes of these Voices of Hope videos? Josh Weed has said on several occasions not to use his story as a life-planning outline. (Don't tell a gay Mormon to get married just because Josh and Lolly are happy and making it all work.) Do you feel parents of gay sons and daughters will 'use' these videos as a similar outline for their own kids? For example: "Watch this video, son. Blake experiences same sex attraction too yet remains faithful in the church and you should as well!" I don't see this as the purpose for these videos, yet I feel it will be the number one 'use."

As a gay Mormon myself, I've come to the conclusion that 1) I'm not alone and 2) after hearing two or three stories from other gay Mormons, I've heard them all. Sorry, but my interest just won't be there anymore to listen and/or read over 1,000 stories as VofH promises to publish. So again, I ask you, what are the purposes of these videos?

Curious to hear your thoughts.

Mormon Guy said...

The purpose of Voices of Hope is shared at http://northstarlds.org/voices-of-hope/ under the section "Purpose" ... and I think that Ty explains it somewhat in the video above. My understanding of Voices of Hope is twofold - an opportunity for people to share their stories of hope and faith, and an opportunity to create a "cloud of witnesses" - sort of like the "I'm a Mormon" campaign - to show that, no matter who you are or what you face, there's hope to find peace in the gospel of Jesus Christ.

There are definitely similarities between the stories. But there are also major differences. I have autism & bipolar. Someone else went through major childhood abuse. Another lives and never gets married, and another is married with children. Hearing stories about people who are finding hope within the context of their lives makes it easier to believe that hope is possible in mine, and gives me opportunities to find ways to apply new things in my life.

Blake Fisher said...

Hey, this is Blake. When I was feeling the most hopeless, I worried that I would be miserable no matter what happened to me. I felt that could never feel happy, fulfilled, or really enjoy life because of my attractions. I have learned, however, that I can be happy as a single person. I have learned that I can feel very fulfilled with a variety of relationships and that I can enjoy life even if it doesn't look like the life I wanted. So I guess I have hope that I can be at peace even if I don't live the picture-perfect Mormon life (no one really does anyway). I also have hope that the LDS community will better understand this issue in the future. I have hope that people will love me, knowing about my attractions. I have hope in the Savior and His ability to help me navigate this life and cause things to work out. I "hope" this helps answer your question... thanks fore asking.