tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post2571064979151261218..comments2023-08-04T21:37:16.987-07:00Comments on (Gay) Mormon Guy: AfraidDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03552740645279057549noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-47600273801757616482012-09-13T23:34:27.508-07:002012-09-13T23:34:27.508-07:00Coming out of left field, have you ever read "...Coming out of left field, have you ever read "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill? It's written around a financial perspective but I have found that it's totally applicable to *any* goal or dream. I pretty much forget that he's talking about money, actually, in almost every chapter.<br /><br />Really interesting book. You might like it as it could pertain to dating & growing in love with someone.<br /><br />Regardless, good luck! True love is magic worth making & maintaining at all costs.Mrs.Smithhttp://mrs.smith.smithfam.usnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-79427240341876946822012-09-04T17:14:19.516-07:002012-09-04T17:14:19.516-07:00Wow! There is so much truth in this, hiding and pe...Wow! There is so much truth in this, hiding and peaking where only some can see it. I think you know the real answer. Faith. How often do we wait for the "perfect" opportunity, or the "perfect" decision? Afraid that if we do something that is not "perfect" our life is ruined? No wonder Satan uses fear to keep us from progressing. The cool thing is that Heavenly Father has a plan for us so we can progress no matter how imperfect we and our decisions are. Nothing and no one in this world is perfect. And we just need to have faith that if we do mess up or if things don't work out the way we planned - it will all turn out OK in the end. Faith is the key. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-18117600831156934902012-08-26T07:13:51.066-07:002012-08-26T07:13:51.066-07:00Sometimes we just have to jump and sort of blindly...Sometimes we just have to jump and sort of blindly, knowing that it may not work but that the consequences of not jumping may be worse. There are a lot of failed marriages to show that it doesn't always work, but I can attest to the fact that when it does it is the sweetest experience and is worth the jump. Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08774138114705555836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-17301823614675642752012-08-24T16:45:06.493-07:002012-08-24T16:45:06.493-07:00My boyfriend actually just broke up with me, for f...My boyfriend actually just broke up with me, for fears you have stated. He has never been in love before and when we fell in love, he got scared. Scared of eternity, scared that he wouldn't be able to make me happy, scared someone else would be better for me. Have faith in yourself and in the Lord that you can overcome this fear!Nicole Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02017198994072698048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-34009444759700123132012-08-24T10:31:17.176-07:002012-08-24T10:31:17.176-07:00We live in a society now that fears marriage. Fear...We live in a society now that fears marriage. Fears making a wrong choice because we've seen how badly it can go wrong. But we forget to lean on teh Lord and to lose fear. I'm a divorced mother of three and I still get fearful of dating again. Fighting cancer has meant I haven't dated much the last 3 years and I'm starting to hit that point where I'm just started to accept that maybe this is my life. Working in the wedding industry does help keep me from getting too static. lol. But you're fears are perfectly normal for all of us. Wendilynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17722996298755231350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-45257597841494496462012-08-22T07:22:50.123-07:002012-08-22T07:22:50.123-07:00Hi, "Mormon Guy." I just found you throu...Hi, "Mormon Guy." I just found you through Duncan Horne in Kuantan. He made a comment on my yesterday's post; told me he didn't know I was LDS. I had suspected he might be. I love meeting LDS bloggers. I came over here to meet you when I saw that yours is a blog he follows. So of course I know practically nothing about you, but I responded emotionally to this post of yours about Fear. Fear pushes away faith, but we all experience it. I've experienced it many times in my long life. I'm 72, a widow, a mother, a grandmother, a writer, and a full time caregiver of a disabled daughter. I had a memoir published by WiDo Publishing (Salt Lake City) in May 2011 which is, among other things, the story of my struggle with a husband who decided he was gay. I hear you when you say, in your header, that you are attracted to men. I once had strong feelings for a roommate, a long time ago, and one roommate later lived sexually with a woman, so I can relate a bit to your feelings, and fears, and struggles. We all struggle with something. Just wanted to let you know I'm here if you need a listening ear. I especially like what you say about "cliff jumping and acting in faith." Last night I read aloud to my disabled daughter a wonderful essay by Elder Gene Cook called Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, which is actually a talk he gave to young people in 1977. Faith is everything. Faith can move mountains. Faith can get us through the dark days. With faith we can overcome all our fears.<br /><a href="http://annbestblog.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow"><i>Ann Best, Memoir Author</i></a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-2238676131966451422012-08-21T19:06:03.225-07:002012-08-21T19:06:03.225-07:00I understand. I went through the same emotions wh...I understand. I went through the same emotions when I anticipated the future goal of getting married. It's hard to put your finger on it, isn't it? Thank you for showing people have much more in common than differences. I try to remember that in my everyday life partly because of your blog.somecookIsewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08579822534539544094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-48082271335368628842012-08-21T14:36:53.810-07:002012-08-21T14:36:53.810-07:00I don't think your fear is unusual, nor is it ...I don't think your fear is unusual, nor is it only had among those with homosexual leanings. I think we all have a natural trepidation when making choices that we know could define the rest of our lives -- even eternally. "Am I doing the right thing?" "What if I make a mistake?" I spent hours nearly every day with my wife for almost two years before we got married. (And for a BYU student, that was an excruciatingly long time.) I was lucky that she was patient with me, and supportive, and amazing. When I came out to her, it didn't change our relationship at all, which was such a blessing. Even so, I think it was natural that such a potent decision as marriage comes with trepidation. But if we don't act and make that decision, we don't progress. Is it like jumping off a cliff? Maybe. But for as long as it took me, it must have been a pretty tall cliff.Who Me?https://www.blogger.com/profile/06249350099327092945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-81603058331280565372012-08-21T09:53:42.819-07:002012-08-21T09:53:42.819-07:00Pray for the fear to be gone. It works! Pray for the fear to be gone. It works! Becky Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03733518903943141370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-1520178220060953582012-08-20T23:02:36.811-07:002012-08-20T23:02:36.811-07:00I think your feelings are completely normal. But.....I think your feelings are completely normal. But..in my opinion and experience..if you're doing what you're supposed to be doing then that's all that matters. And when you meet that girl..YOU WILL KNOW. No doubts. No fears.aubreyanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06429805175846228093noreply@blogger.com