tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post295498775850722367..comments2023-08-04T21:37:16.987-07:00Comments on (Gay) Mormon Guy: Golden Rings: the 5th Day of ChristmasDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03552740645279057549noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-85264227324315590812011-01-01T08:34:49.139-08:002011-01-01T08:34:49.139-08:00JB:
I agree wholeheartedly with letting my future...JB:<br /><br />I agree wholeheartedly with letting my future wife have all the dreams she wants at her reception.<br /><br />...and marriage is an interesting subject when you're attracted to the same gender. When I was younger, I knew that God would give faithful members all the blessings we needed to be happy - and a wife is necessary in my case to get back to Him. But some of the statements of the Brethren indicate that some men, like some women with and without this struggle, will never have the opportunity to get married. The Church doesn't talk about that much... and when they do, it's usually associated with women - hence why women can go on multiple missions, serve in callings, etc. Everything at those same levels on the male side require marriage - teaching professional Seminary, holding any leadership calling above Elder's Quorum President... and other callings.<br /><br />I think that faith is a necessary component... And that faith entails the willingness to do anything to receive the blessings, and also understand God's ways and His timing. In my conversations with Him, He's been pretty clear of late. I will eventually (probably in the next 4 years) find a wife that I'll be hopelessly in love with. But before that time, He has a lot of things planned for me to accomplish. I would definitely not be writing this blog if I were married.<br /><br />I just think it's important to keep our eyes single to whatever it is we want. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. So hopefully I become the best father and husband to my wife in mortal existence.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03552740645279057549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-12798607049217581902011-01-01T08:09:06.444-08:002011-01-01T08:09:06.444-08:00I always figured that I would leave the wedding de...I always figured that I would leave the wedding details (such as cake, colors, and reception styles as you mentioned) to the girl. Generally it's something they've been planning since they were little, and I didn't want to get in the way of their wedding day dreams.<br /><br />Baby names are fun; for me, engagement signalled the time to think about baby names.<br /><br />I wonder if planning on marriage is a necessary component. It's a supremely difficult thing to judge, but sometimes it seems like people I know stay single because they don't keep a real expectation fot it (like a self-fulfilling prophecy). I think the key thing for me was to expect marriage in a way that made it an assumption, not because of anything related to me individually, but because it's the will of God and I've covenanted to do His will.J_B_Fisherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09026386517965617416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-51456627320112362422010-12-31T19:56:26.218-08:002010-12-31T19:56:26.218-08:00THHtGU: Wow. You don't have a type-friendly ac...THHtGU: Wow. You don't have a type-friendly acronym. I don't know if it helped me. I'm not married. But it did help others who were closer to marriage. By constantly thinking about marriage, they automatically applied the thought to their current relationships. The advice in the class was actually pretty amazing overall.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03552740645279057549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-74110569749158725542010-12-31T18:45:33.544-08:002010-12-31T18:45:33.544-08:00...that advice just seems weird... Maybe he means ......that advice just seems weird... Maybe he means well, but... I can't imagine it helped. Did it help?<br /><br />(I had friends that all did that. They had their whole wedding planned out at fifteen. That just seemed awkward to me.)jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07609613967033394629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-79924329013391285802010-12-30T23:42:30.286-08:002010-12-30T23:42:30.286-08:00This is a very beautiful article written about a g...This is a very beautiful article written about a gospel singer B. David who leaves his behind his gay lifestyle. This is great because it shows that God is there for all of his children in a similar position that you are in. <br /><br />http://praisedc.com/new-music/yolandaadams/gospel-singer-b-david-leaves-gay-lifestyle-behind/Britthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04592930035728778499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-39708439878080908312010-12-30T23:37:46.642-08:002010-12-30T23:37:46.642-08:00I think that it's good to think about the futu...I think that it's good to think about the future, and I also think that it must be terribly hard to find the desire to be physically attracted to a woman when you struggle with feelings for the opposite sex.<br /><br /> I am very amazed by your strength and I know it probably doesn't always come easily. Anyway, I think a good step is to get involved in a singles bible study if you aren't or try to just hang out with girls that are just friends. Also, don't feel so bad or be so hard on yourself for feeling uncomfortable with loved ones setting you up with blind dates because blind dates are just hard anyway. It's much easier, if possible, to develop a relationship out of a friendship, or just hang out with a group of friends. I think it's rare for there to ever be absolute "love at first site" or something like that. I think before you fall in love you become best friends, so maybe in pursuing your friendships, you will begin developing a strong friendship and connection with one particular girl over time. And over time you both may realize that out of your friendship you have grown to love each other beyond just being best friends. Also, I think that the woman God has planned for you to marry someday will also be comfortable listening and understanding where you come from with your struggle. It may not be immediate but I think that if she is the "right" girl she will be compassionate and caring toward you and what you struggle with daily. <br /><br />Honestly, your struggle is no different than anyone else who struggles with something, and God sees it all equally and doesn't love any of his children less because on struggles with say gossip and the other struggles with feeling like they are gay, or a woman who struggles with walking out of the life of prostitution, or desiring to go back once they've left. <br /><br /> There is actually a TV show called Hookers for Jesus, and it's about a woman who was a prostitute and found Jesus and through help she was able to walk out of that lifestyle and now through her church, she has formed an organization that helps other women do the same. It's an amazing show and I end up crying and realizing how those women feel, and actually found myself asking God for forgiveness from my somewhat judgment and assumption that it's not that hard to walk out of that kind of life; you just do it. Well, I was wrong and I'm am glad I started watching that show and that God humbled me to realize I need to be more compassionate.<br /><br /> Anyway, I am encouraged by your strength to be open about your struggle and maybe I will be able to be more open about my struggles by your example! <br /><br />Peace!snowflake_chic75https://www.blogger.com/profile/04764696803951725967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-60708295115454828852010-12-30T23:20:18.191-08:002010-12-30T23:20:18.191-08:00I have a diamond simulant wedding ring from Diamon...I have a diamond simulant wedding ring from Diamond Nexus. I get compliments on it all the time and it cost $500 instead of $10,000 for 1.5 carats. I highly recommend them...and hope you need that recommendation for a practical application soon :)Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11759231031889059184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-68639314622540495382010-12-30T22:23:19.370-08:002010-12-30T22:23:19.370-08:00Lauren:
He just suggested doing those things ours...Lauren:<br /><br />He just suggested doing those things ourselves - not necessarily doing them with a girl. It was just to keep our minds on marriage... The whole "you get what you think about" motif.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03552740645279057549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-5054051541739628572010-12-30T22:16:49.988-08:002010-12-30T22:16:49.988-08:00LOL!! Ok, to me the last part was really funny. ...LOL!! Ok, to me the last part was really funny. Maybe it wasn't supposed to be. OK, that marriage prep teacher can't expect you to talk about baby names with EVERY girl you go out on a date with? It's either getting her hopes up before you crush her or scaring her away....and it would be horrible if you really thought she was 'the one' and then she's already gone. That teacher surely didn't go about their dating life that way. If people pretend like that with everyone they date, how is one supposed to take them seriously when they pop the question? Drop that idea completely! Talking about baby names and reception themes is hardly a priority when divorce is so common. No one gets married because they agree on centerpieces. Get to know the person, every aspect from the ground up.*Lauren*https://www.blogger.com/profile/00527594596812028563noreply@blogger.com