tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post5496734321659109985..comments2023-08-04T21:37:16.987-07:00Comments on (Gay) Mormon Guy: The Miserable, Amazing World of DatingDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03552740645279057549noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-48806311802068927392011-04-10T13:02:46.110-07:002011-04-10T13:02:46.110-07:00I am a girl, and I dated a guy in high school who ...I am a girl, and I dated a guy in high school who turned out to be gay. Our relationship never "sparked"; I dated him because he'd liked me since middle school (and because I was afraid to say no). Sometimes I wonder if he "liked" me because I was LDS and as such wouldn't date until I was 16--therefore giving him a girl to like, which would make him normal, but a reason not to date her. It all turned out really badly in the end when we broke up, but I learned a lot from the experience. I'm not upset or offended that we dated, and we have since reconnected and we both have positive feelings about each other. The experience taught me a lot about love and forgiveness and about how we really are all children of God. I never set out to date somebody who wasn't attracted to me, but what I learned from the experience is something I would never give away. Sometimes girls are afraid of dating somebody with SSA, but in my experience we go through things in life for a reason and sometimes we do things we never thought we would do and learn wonderful things from it. When we are true and faithful, God will bless us with loving and open hearts to understand others who are different from us.<br /><br />So, I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think that it's great that you're dating! Dating is not only about finding an eternal companion, but it can be about getting to know wonderful people who are meant to fall in love with and marry somebody else, but we can touch each other's lives in the process.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-51835965565775793942010-10-16T10:42:01.025-07:002010-10-16T10:42:01.025-07:00David:
...There are exceptions. And maybe, as far ...<b>David:</b><br />...There <i>are</i> exceptions. And maybe, as far as finding a wife goes, we're an exception in the dating world. From my perspective, the only way to know, barring a revelation from God (and that one definitely has not come to me), would be to date. <br /><br />Even if I knew that I couldn't get married, I think that dating, at least for me, is still worthwhile. It's a way that I can lift people and learn from them. A way to see into their hearts and become a better missionary, develop friendships, and identify things I want to change in myself.<br /><br />Thanks for commenting.Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03552740645279057549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-54809544036929954472010-10-16T09:20:57.081-07:002010-10-16T09:20:57.081-07:00I wonder GMG, I don't think we have been comma...I wonder GMG, I don't think we have been commanded to Date. Elder Oaks, in his wonderful talk "Dating versus Hanging Out" even mentioned that there are exceptions to every rule, including his. If ever there was an exception from the "commandment" to date I think Gay Mormons would be just that.David Baker-@DB389https://www.blogger.com/profile/09029208091840336879noreply@blogger.com