tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post5452624457088000861..comments2023-08-04T21:37:16.987-07:00Comments on (Gay) Mormon Guy: Utah County Crisis LineDavidhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03552740645279057549noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-43956558152791610982013-06-21T04:29:58.265-07:002013-06-21T04:29:58.265-07:00I understand your perspective on Santa. As a Mom, ...I understand your perspective on Santa. As a Mom, if we approach it as we are 'playing pretend' then I think it doesn't come off as a lie. Kids play pretend with their toys :)shelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03290581200852059562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-80310066084220604542013-06-19T09:32:54.430-07:002013-06-19T09:32:54.430-07:00I can totally understand how you must be feeling, ...I can totally understand how you must be feeling, because I know that I would also have a great inclination to tell some of 'my' experiences in an effort to show someone that I understand and genuinely care. <br /><br />And, I confess (and my readers have probably noticed) that I do tend to 'enjoy' telling my stuff (experiences - feelings - beliefs - ideas, etc).<br /><br />But, I think that there is definitely a way to show others you understand and care w/o sharing 'YOUR stuff'.<br /><br />I learned this through a couple of my brutally honest children, who, when teenagers, would occasionally stop me when I was attempting to show them that I understand their problems by relating my own past experiences, and they would literally say...."But Mom - this is not about you". ~~~ lol<br /><br />Sometimes their comments were hard to take (especially when I was deep into a really great story - about me and my life - and had not yet got to the best part), but I am grateful that they felt comfortable enough in our relationship to express their needs to me and literally 'teach' me the best way to teach, and comfort, and help them. When in crisis, they clearly needed the discussion to be completely about them - and that's ok.<br /><br />My mother used to always say..."Unsolicited advice falls on deaf ears" - so if the procedures of the crisis line are to abstain from sharing your own 'stuff', I'm sure they know what's best as they are certainly EXPERTS at what they do.<br /><br />I'd recommend that you submit to and follow their guidelines, and I'll bet that you will find that you have great wisdom, insights, and an ability to help those in crisis, even without sharing your own personal 'stuff'.<br /><br />The person you have become, because of your stuff, is someone who is understanding, caring, compassionate, with a great desire to help others. You CAN help others just by being YOU, and who YOU are, especially your sweet spirit, will come through (over the phone)without you even verbally telling the person about you.<br /><br />You won't have to 'say it' because they will be able to 'feel it'. And the Lord will bless you to know what to say that will be of comfort to those in desperate need of a listening ear.<br /><br />I think you're a pretty special guy, and your intentions are good; you do have alot to offer and I think the spirit is guiding and inspiring you to do great things, so just roll with it ~~~~ :DI Define Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07559973604241738145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-40994087105716282762013-06-19T00:56:26.668-07:002013-06-19T00:56:26.668-07:00Hmmm... your in-the-trenches background helping pe...Hmmm... your in-the-trenches background helping people in crisis. Your personal experiences surviving suicidal depression and even abuse. Living a positive life while dealing with same gender attraction and Autism Spectrum Disorder. Combined with your diverse education and exceptional problem solving skills. If there is a need out there for a more personalized or innovative crisis line, sounds like you would be the guy to develop it. But you can't man all the phones... which means you would have to come up with concepts and a methodology for training everyone else to be as effective as you. Or at least in the ballpark. If you were to decide this is your mission for the next while, you seem uniquely suited for it. <br /><br />And with that highly focused, problem solving mind of yours, you could even develop a more effective, practical, and economical Phase 2 than what is probably currently available. A rehabilitation program for helping the people whose lives just got saved by crisis intervention stay out of crisis and live more healthy and hopeful lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2780506856626441160.post-31778081821984074902013-06-18T20:24:05.395-07:002013-06-18T20:24:05.395-07:00I can so relate to your feelings about not being a...I can so relate to your feelings about not being allowed to chare your personal experieces. I think there are different kinds of people, some can hold back and some can not. It's a little like with Santa, many in the church make their children believe that he is real, when they are small, because it's kind of nice, but I never could. I mean how could I lie to them about Santa and them expect them to believe me when I say God is real? It's much more about my own feelings that if children actually can make the difference. We are different as human beings and there are a place for us all, but not exactly the same place, we just have to find the place where we can do the most difference.Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11959969992584227334noreply@blogger.com